Being an intj is hard I have very few friends, and I struggle to make new ones because I simply cannot relate to other people and I find it exhausting. Not to raise a pity party. 5 secret to being in a relationship with an INTJ personality 1. i didn’t really know INTJs had to be chased. " The other is saying: "F-em. I know a lot of people who have this type of thinking, a lot of INFJs, some I/ESTJs. It is not an exaggeration, it is like they find more interesting to talk about boyfriends or makeup or gossip, so I find them boring and shallow, and they find me weird. (Broken up into five, ten, twenty, thirty, and forty-year goals. They're hard for everyone, but no harder for INTJs than others. It’s hard to do, but really not when you realize that really that’s what you wish people did for you right? We just want people to get us. Expression is specifically rooted in Ne and Fe functions, which are subdued and vulnerable in the INTJ. It want that person to go away. Being an INTJ Female is seriously difficult. Being a friend with an INTJ is hard because first you have to be a good person. Excercising the brain is healthy bur most seldom do. Look for ENTJs they will perfectly understand the way you are!! Reply reply As an INTJ, do you find it hard to find someone to date? One says: "let them fool you, be nice. Please please please no one go around believing that being an INTJ means you have no talent for socializing. Instead, turn to the colleagues you admire the most. Above all, INTJ women need to be authentic. But categorizing things that form our personality and being absolute over things we "must do" or "must not do" simply because it's "INTJ-like" seems depressive. Being vulnerable is hard but if you find the right therapist it gets easier and it feels valuable and internal structures begin to shift. But other people seem to use much more sophisticated, to the point, and short sentences whereas I use long, convoluted, dumb sounding sentences that make sense to me and people seem to understand, but it makes me sound stupid and I'm strongly You know, as an INTJ, one problem I have with a lot of INTJs is that some of them can be really terrible. I'm a 34M INTJ male, and I have to say that as hard as modern dating is for most people, I feel like it's just exponentially harder for an INTJ. 97 votes, 177 comments. I wish I was more logical and less emotional. Reply reply [deleted] • it's a little extreme but it's got some truth. A person can use an INTJ approach and be very, very wrong. Try to focus on yourself and not on what it takes to fit in because we were born to stand out. Every INTJ comes to them for problem with making/keeping friends. If you have a 99% average, it's pretty hard for a teacher to give you a zero out of five on a written answer you actually answered. 15 votes, 27 comments. Maybe you’ve found yourself feeling like the only person with a brain in a world of chaos, or perhaps you’ve been convinced that if only everyone would just listen to you, things would actually make sense. As an INTJ, it is certainly hard for me to cry. Being accepted and understood feels very good to an INTJ woman, but it can be hard to find that acceptance with family members. They would be happy to live a solitary life on an With only 2% of the population sporting this compelling mix of traits, INTJs struggle to align their inner world with external expectations every day. Not only is it preferred to keep our perceptions and observations to ourselves, but it is also hard to resonate with others, and translate that which we see into an intelligible manner. Part of being an INTJ is having that drive to fix the problem. As for hating being an INTJ, bro, you don't know any different. Therefore, INTJs may have always struggled to find a partner who matches them perfectly. I currently am a full-time student at a college and pretty much all of my time is spent on academic activities. They fall in love hard. It's not a relationship, and people need to stop treating flings as intimate relationships. INFJs can seriously understand people but for the most part can't stand being around most of the population for that exact reason. And to make things worse, mistypes even try to identify to those stereotypes. But with an INTJ personality type partner, they’d rather spend their free time with you versus being alone. Difficulties in 2. Now if i interpreted this wrong, and you mean that you have a hard time letting things go in terms of small mistakes made by others, then you’re referring to Fi tertiary. For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. Makes it hard for others to engage if you don't focus on something other than what you want to do or talk about. Is that what love is? I'm in my 20's, and even though I've had a handful of relationships, I don't think I know what love is, Being an INTJ is like being constantly sober to reality. She stands up for herself and is not afraid of being seen as harsh. We see the world more clearly the most. We are invested in being right and it is far from the same thing. I like when people rely on my efficiency and organizational skills and let me take the lead. INTJ Disillusionment. INTJs often hold their tongues, making them secretive. Impact on Personal Relationships. INFJs are one of the rarest personality types, making up only 1-2% of the population. i admire my husband so much and he makes my dreams come true every day. I've never come across an INTJ before and for me this is an Anyway, might be worth a try, just know that when I meet up with INTJs who are "hard to understand" or with whom talking is "not easy," they always seem to turn out to be these heavy-NiFi guys who are very hard on themselves and others. I am hard on myself in terms of being driven and working hard to achieve my goals but if I fuck up, I plan how to avoid the same thing in the future, how to do it better and move on. and I actually hate that I have trouble fitting in with other women. Some days it's hard, but she likes being a woman and an INTJ. I imagine INTJ’s would have a hard time accepting they’re wrong when it comes to interacting directly with someone else. which sucks cause my intuition is to play a little hard to get as a test like you said lol. " I wish I had the INTJ gift of being clueless about their lack of empathy. When we’re in love, you become a part of us in a way. Of course, the second one throws me off, bc when they say it, they say it as a compliment, but I'm thinking, "wow, you must have had a Just curious here I have a serious problem explaining things to people. in contrast I think for example ESFJ would just want to be friends with everyone 1. Expand user menu Open settings menu. I find this hard often, to consider the perspectives of others, especially if I feel they've done something wrong, and this friend of mine reminds me of that other perspectives matter. As if being an INTJ formed one's whole identity and placed them in a box. He tends to be more reactive vs introspective. Losing sleep over how 'weird' others find you will only make you more sad. If you try to make a living as a photographer, For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. Though it is almost certainly superfluous to say so in this subreddit, I have been a hard introvert my entire life. Relations. One of the most significant challenges is feeling like an outsider in traditional female-dominated environments. Just thought that problem fits many INTJs including me. No one wants to work for someone who's completely tone-deaf. Since i was still a child back then, my father always takes me to different environments to meet a lot of different people in When I meet someone like this, I fall hard, because it's so very, very rare, and I have to work hard not to move too fast for them INTJ's fall in love with women who understand the true reasoning behind what we do. Being a lesbian INTJ female I'd argue is the most difficult. Even with Fi being third in INTJ when they open up it's wonderful and can be very sweet and emotional. If it include facts or raising questions that people generally dont like to consider, then they have a hard time accepting me as one of It’s hard to avoid all the social demands from school, work, family, and the like. When I’m socially tired I just start to check out of the interaction. Although following social norms can be appealing, doing so can cause irritation and burnout. It's just you being you, and it shows you stick to rules. You can, and if you just make an effort, you will. I can practically see this type every time I look at myself in the mirror. I have alternated between INTJ and INTP at different times in my life, with INTJ being the baseline. I have the opposite issue thoroughly. INTJ parents encourage their children to exercise freedom responsibly, maintaining a respectful Being hard on ourself I don’t think is bad at all. I find that when i crush on someone they have to vibe with me, truly get me and vice versa. like your family or friends just leave it to you to plan out, take control of everything I actually like doing so. INTJs are natural leaders but are intensely private. INTJs are a proud breed, able to help eliminate some of the unfair stereotypes placed on women. I like the pros of being an INTJ, but the cons are just so overwhelming to me. Being an INFJ is really, really hard work, but as you get older and you learn about yourself, what makes you happy, Intj men usually like enfp women (completes the puzzle). These challenges can range from social interactions to personal perfectionism and emotional management. ” 26 votes, 17 comments. I go outside and people stop me to comment how INTJ I look and act. They tend to keep their emotions hidden and may not express themselves in the same way as other personality types. Try not to let an INTJ in their "neutral state" trigger one's own 20 y/o male INTJ here. You can use it for good, or for really bad things. So being alone can be worse than spending that time with you. The people who think being an INTJ automatically confers intelligence are some of the least-intelligent people around. e. Log In / Sign Up; Then there's all the bad experiences that happen, and being an INTJ those are hard to forget. Hello fellow INTJs, I am a 23 year old college student. i am an ENFJ. He talks out his thoughts, whereas INTJs think deeply before speaking. Ive been hearing that being an introvert is not always the best thing in terms of finding a job. If an INTJ loves you they will go to the ends of the earth to understand you. Don’t tell them you love them back if you aren’t willing to do the same. I have to do something completely attention absorbing or placating (painting, I can safely read the INTJ description every day and say "Yup, that's me". But I was like, "You know what, If I'm INTJ or ISTJ or whatever, I'm still me. I'm saying this bcz when I was conflicted between being and ISTJ and INTJ, I didn't want to be an ISTJ. r/intj A chip A close button. It’s a fucking circus. I am a 23-year-old university student and an INTJ 5w4, If you work super hard at being someone you’re not, you can have loads of shallow relationships with people who you don’t really like. At least in my experience It's often more efficient to do everything yourself. Being an INTJ doesn't limit me from accepting myself. They are usually aware of this weakness and their Te appreciates being told before they make a social mistake that could potentially injure their status. I’ve lost friends like this, and now I find it hard to make friends with guys for this very reason. Love is hard, man. Being INTJ simply made it easier to keep it all 'bottled up'. For me, being an INTJ is way worse than anything you wrote. Other people just get in the way. If everything is being taken care of and paid for you, these feelings will not be as strong, because you are comfortable. Indeed, understanding personality types is like decoding a complex cipher. It’s tough to capture the nuances of running a business. Just try to encourage happiness by forcing yourself to appear happy via laughter or positivity sometimes and it will eventually come more naturally and actually evoke genuine feelings of happiness when your brain is trained to recognize it is supposed to feel that way and that it elicits rewarding chemical For all the people wishing to be an INTJ: The first time I got my result, I was kinda happy to know why I am the way I am and seeing so many „cool“ characters being INTJs as well. If you’re also highly logical, then chances are, you’re an INTJ – the most introverted of personality types out there. Ni: Being dissociated and unsatisfied all the time Te: Feeling lost when their problem solving skills aren't needed (I. Dating, without the stupid social production shit, is supposed to be for getting to know someone. If we take the initiative and go “get” people then they will get us perhaps. Whenever a redditor talks about how the liberal arts is useless (vs stem) Frequently asked questions (FAQs) on dating INTJ individuals Why are INTJs hard to date? INTJs are unique individuals, and it can be challenging to date them. Representing only about 2-4% of the population (INTJ women ~0. If an INTJ loves you, you have the blueprint. Is this something that others of you have gone Why Are INTJ So Hard To Read. It’s just about how much time I’m willing to put into a project or something. His political, acting, performing, and business ambitions lead me to believe he thrives on being the center of attention and prefers creating frameworks vs INTJs who prefer being out of the spotlight improving systems. They can see a big picture and perceive a situation in an I've had people flat out tell me I'm hard to read or people tell me that they read me all wrong and I'm not what they thought I'd be like. Ah, I see bro. 5 Challenges Of Being An INTJ (+ How To Rock Them) Introduction. On the other hand, I think I just met a bad person, not about INTJ but never had a chance to talk about this. If the problem is being left out of certain social situations or not having a lot of friends, then as INTJs, we feel the need to learn the techniques required to become more social, get friends, etc. Secrets About INTJ Relationships 1. Although the INTJ personality type takes pride in their logical thinking and problem-solving abilities, they may struggle when it comes to expressing their own emotions, as well as In this article, we’ll explore the characteristics of this logic-driven personality type and examine the pros and cons of being an INTJ. I would just flat out ask him if he has any feedback for you, So what should you know about being in a relationship with an INTJ? In true INTJ fashion, I’ve created a checklist of seven crucial items, based on input from a group of 25 INTJs. What I’ve noticed about being an INTJ: (19M) • Majority of people in society do not think like us. I think there’s a general consensus about INTJs, that they’re quiet and harmless people. Getting enough information to avoid basic dealbreakers is hard, especially with social conventions preventing sane interpersonal interaction. INTx in general are inclined to address any issues instead of being passive aggressive. No, it's not hard being an INTJ, it's hard being you, because you are dissatisfied with your life, and rather than doing the work on yourself to change it, you've decided it's the rest of the world's fault for not accommodating your special circumstances. Our blog post will dive into these challenges and offer insight on how INTJs can No you shouldn't be, being an INTJ comes from how the cognitive functions you have as an INTJ work within you. Being an INTJ isn't a license to act like an ass, though we do come off that way a lot. worried about this. The thing with Fi is that it shows feelings, when they want to, it is the ultimate source of feelings. Some can be stuck up, snobbish, always assume they're right and no one else is, they look down on other people, and they try to use "logic" to excuse their horrible behavior. There are dopey people everywhere who repeatedly cause unnecessary headaches for everyone around them, and I constantly feel compelled to correct them, but it's ultimately a losing battle (and I I agree, dating for a serious relationship is f*cking hard and annoying. It even said the INTJ really hard to understand either with the introverts itself. But in case it isn’t obvious this is how I got crazy good grades in psycho crazy hard classes like biochemistry, etc. Unlock the secrets of the rare INFJ personality It also leaves this type open to total destruction. INTJ, female - I fell in love with my now husband of 10+ years after careful examination of the dating pool, introspection into what kind of relationship I wanted, and then I averted any anxiety from my logic side, and confirmed my choice made sense, and truly fell in love by giving myself permission to focus intently on the characteristics I liked the most about him. These are the people who will respect your natural competence and like your personality. Obviously not the same as being INTJ and Latina, but any form of gendered cultural expectations and female INTJs are not a winning combination lol. They’re worried they’ll put their foot in their mouth. I hate that i have Fe because i couldn't care less Fortunately, if you are honest with the INTJ about how their actions make you feel, they are often apologetic and often quickly correct course once you point it out (if they care about you). So Fi users don't need Fe for that. (This probably happened due to me being INTJ - I don't have the degree for Challenges And Advantages Of Being An INTJ Female. 1. As an ENFP, you see everyone's perspectives. Getting hook ups is easy but now I am in the phase where I want to start a serious relationship and the proces is so tiring. INTJs are known for their analytical and logical minds, which can make them appear cold and unemotional to others. Being an INTJ only really becomes helpful when you’re an adult. However, relationship challenges can arise from INTJs being perceived as overly critical or analytical, their emotional expressions often misunderstood. It’s not always straightforward but it gets easier once you know what to look Continue reading "8 signs you’re an INTJ, the This is the most frustrating part of being an INTJ for me. 7. Any label doesn't magically change who i am". I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to admit that I need other people. INTJ women can succeed on their own terms by embracing their strengths and locating settings that support their ideals. You might not match with the INTJ stereotypes but that's normal and okay. I've followed pickup artists for years and may be that's the first problem, which I actually thought was a solution. We basically look for ourselves in other people while we are literally right here lol. I am pretty much a textbook copy of a stereotypical INTJ and I am not proud. I have preferred similar personalities, especially INTJs, Not quite the same as being fake which I know is a generally bad thing that I despise. What It Is Really Like Being An INTJ Woman In Today’s World. Being hot or good looking isn’t just enough, same with just being nice. Reply reply I don’t love it either because I really over-analyze people’s intentions and that makes it really hard to trust people. i always knew i'm a bit hard in making friends or communication. No. Surveys show INTJs to be among the types most likely to INTJs love their alone time. Socializing is incredibly draining for us, the trick is honesty for me. It’s really shows how much this type is misunderstood. On the inside I’m saying to myself “this isn’t that hard, just ask them what’s wrong and find a easy solution for them. It's pretty hard to fit in when all the other girls are swooning about the next vampire romance novel and talking about which heels look better. Being in a relationship with intj I can say that he tends to have expectations of everyone to understand what’s in his mind while literally do everything to hide how he feels and not saying anything what’s exactly on his Nothing ever changes. People who wanna be an INTJ even made me question myself. I feel so empty and shallow despite my efforts. Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. They are the ultimate cheerleader. Reply reply To me it just feels like I’m being a decent human and treating people with courtesy, but to others it’s a higher standard. If your INTJ manager is giving you a hard time, you need to figure out what the issue is and straighten up. Reply reply PartyRob • An INTJ is never hard on Now, more than ever, it’s important that we remind ourselves of why we should love our minds, why we should encourage learning, and promote thinking for yourself. There are two sides to it, and it’s important to see both: INFJs are peculiar creatures. INTJ females often struggle to find people they can connect with on a deep level due to their unique way of thinking Oh as a female intj I get you, that is why I find so hard to talk to other women. We Fitting in is not hard. I tend to crush really hard, and then. Being hard to read feels like a compliment to me because it means my thoughts and feelings are safe from prying eyes. I went on lots of "bookstore dates" back when there were actual bookstores. I chuckle softly as I'm assured everyday that being an INTJ is This is what it is really like and these are the facts and truths of being INTJ! Now Reading. If they reach that conclusion on their own, then I see no reason why not. INTJ is a lonely life. Intj have a very soft vulnerable side When intj are thinking or hurt they usually withdraw even form their loved ones. Being an INTJ means you have this inherent superpower of sniffing a lie so you weirdly will always know the truth even if people don’t tell you themselves, but That was definitely a huge struggle in our relationship until I finally had enough. I love and appreciate the enfp thoughts - but I need calm at home. Being an introvert can significantly impact personal relationships. Most here are aware they are not an intj all the time. You are not as different from other people as you might think, From where I see INTJ have a hard time trying to fulfill their well thought plans and procedures. I aimed for that too and found it in an INFJ-T For me, just working on myself and letting the women approach me worked the 2nd time around. 0. Taking the role at the top is natural for an INTJ, as they are effective leaders and are capable of inspiring others. idk if I’m making sense but just wondering if any other INTJs can relate yep same, but I don't feel alone, I'm glad there are some people who relate to me on some level. We are absolutely not married to being right. Apparently I do something for him because he treats me very well. March 2, 2023 March 15, 2023 strategic. I’m intj female: At work, my “seconds in command” are usually enfp - but my husband is istj. There's no denying that. I call this the "thinking carousel" and even hard medications can't make my brain stop. INTJ's in particular are usually faulted for being aggressive over passive-aggressive on any day. It's hard because 98% of people, including our parents, teachers, mentors, counselors, etc don't understand us and expect us to be like everyone Being an INTJ is hard but it's also only as hard as you make it. There are no simple rules or a checklist that can ensure your success as an entrepreneur. But an INTJ doesn't attribute it to being smart, we don't think we are, we think you're lazy and don't try. The INTJs is furthest away from external expression. Being a INTJ female is awesome, and if you need a INFJs also are often like this, preferring serious, deep relationships I think even more than INTJs. i have skimmed through parts of my brothers What I mean is that if you suck at photography and try to make a living as a photographer, you're making things hard on yourself. Do you find yourself admiring their self-confidence, hard-working nature, and ability to focus on the big picture? Perhaps you’re even considering trying to become an INTJ yourself. So glad I know a lot of intuitive types. INTJs make up just over 2 percent of the population, and their unique set of strengths and weaknesses can make them stand out in just about every field. They don’t communicate the way i do. Intj love animals. Speaking feels difficult so I answer the minimum amount to get a point across. Reply reply an "ENTJ" that works really hard 24/7 for no rhyme or reason probably isn't an ENTJ we tend to work hard so we can be lazy. I find it really hard to get over someone who i’ve crushed on, there’s a reason i’ve crushed on someone. i am classic intj and an introvert. This is why 16personalities mistakenly typed me as an INFJ (because of my Most of my family are xsfx and being a INTJ in a SF environment is very hard. We are masters of the poker face and can often seem emotionless. Being too hard on myself for overeating was actually detrimental towards that bigger goal, because the point was to lead a healthy lifestyle, which included a healthy relationship with food and exercise. There are difficulties associated with being an INTJ woman. And I don’t even understand why the thought of being close to other people and the thought of allowing other people to care about me terrifies me so much. One of the most defining qualities of the INTJ personality type is how much they trust their intuitive insights. INTJ love language? Helping their partner reach their goals. #2. But even when realizing all this its hard to stop doing it If you’re always lost in thought, you might be an introvert. It’s not being selfish. Learn to love being alone. I just think I'm very selective in who I spend time with, I don't want to just hang out with someone to not be alone, I enjoy being alone a lot, so it takes a lot for me to want to spend time with someone instead. Usually the only times I cry are when I allow myself to. I am ambitious, goal oriented, get shit done kind of person. Members Online • Think On a good day though, I don't have a hard time being happy for them, I love it when we can celebrate together :) Reply reply In this article, we’ll explore why being an INFJ is so hard and offer some tips for navigating the unique challenges that come with this personality type. But before you dive headfirst into trying to develop Yeah, I feel like not being taken seriously is one of the most disappointing things about being an INTJ female, but it is to be expected, sadly. I have to allow myself to really feel whatever it is that is causing me so much emotional pain. Do not let stereotypes tell you that relationships must be hard. Ever wondered what an INTJ in their dark side is like? Or maybe you are an INTJ and you’re noticing some let’s call them “intense” behaviors creeping in. Not everyone has the privilege of being comfortable. We are hard to read. Trying to fit in is hard. Being hard on yourself only becomes a problem when it evolves into an irrational state of mind, which ultimately leads to self-imposed failure and defeats the purpose of being hard on yourself to begin with. Coffee, talk about *books*, not read them, and have a good time learning about each other. It might be fun being married to me because I sincerely think he is the most competent person on the planet and I let him know I think that. relationships, happiness) Fi: Hypersensitivity. In this case, maybe it has something to do with you being too moralistic - dunno how old are you, but especially younger woemen like playful and chill guys. Perks of being an INTJ, we r literally filter for meeting high caliber people, I have observed that all people who choose to stand by my side even though I am such a high standard person ( as said by some people around me) they all r very capable and self aware people who genuinely want to grow as a person and want to do good as much with all their power. And in fact, we have the ability to be AMAZING in relationships so long as we are strategic about it. It's also especially terrible when they're like, "Well, if you like art or wear colors other than black or Yes. Being in university for 4 years, When it comes to relationships and attraction, I hate being an INTJ woman, sometimes I'm jealous of ENFP females EDIT: It seems that this post got some misunderstanding. We can pull 100h work weeks 6 months straight to get a job done just so we can be lazy and pursue our hobbies. Our desire for things, from Ni, is why we have a hard time letting things go. That being said, thinking that you're right is only as risky as the data you use to back it up. Just to clarify, purely speculation here, as I don’t believe I’m an INTJ. But I do like bonding I mean INTJs are known for being very attached to few people. Ni dom types (INxJs) have a really hard time letting things go. Many INTJs pair best with other INTJs. Hello and welcome back to another INTJ University video! Today, we are taking a closer look at the 5 challenges INTJs are likely to struggle with and what you can do today to improve upon those struggles and maybe even make them a thing of the past. So grab a cup of tea, get comfortable, and let’s dive in. Check the r/INTJ rules and the FAQ before posting. Being an INTJ female comes with both challenges and advantages. 8%)—and, as you may have noticed, seemingly 50% of internet debaters—INTJs are frequently regarded as Being an INTJ of any gender and sexual oriantation is difficult. I like being in control of the situation. They are wired to grasp the details of what’s going on beneath the surface and have a talent for seeing and connecting what others might view as unexplainable information. It is especially true if the relationship is starting or someone who can’t Mothers of INTJ girls might not be fully satisfied with the complex character of their INTJ daughters. It is especially hard for an INTJ girl to meet the expectations of respected familial authority figures when those authorities are Being INTJ or introverted is no excuse for being unable to effectively communicate and express yourself. I have a hard time caring about what’s happening so I drift off or stop paying attention. However, I think there is nothing bad with being moralistic. i am pretty interested in psychology and want to know any INTJ's ideas on it. Just explaining this is hard and I'm already giving up. Also, your MBTI can change throughout your life. For example, I feel much more rational than my peers so it's hard to relate. To your point of it's hard to be casually interested, branching out to more experiences means you will really get to know them. i know there are a plenty of reasons why things could be like that, but some intjs said it's relatable for them do you personaly find making friends or social interactions difficult? how do you think, is it connected with your type? Life is extremely hard for young, especially grade school INTJs. It's not who I want to be though! I am an extreme geek, very nerdy have a high IQ, analytical ability, pattern recognition, programmer, work with project management of large IT projects. Pinterest. Is he losing interest or just being an INTJ? Relationship I (22f) am an ENFP who recently met an INTJ (23m) off tinder. Why Is Being An INFJ So Hard. I hope I can find my own circle real soon! However if I answer the questions honestly, the result comes out as a clear INTJ. The same applies in real life. but yeah, If you are doing what you should be doing, your INTJ manager won't be hovering over you and giving you a hard time. They’ll try to help you achieve your goals Just an idea, but You may mistake bragging, for it just being a frequent talking point. By the way, Observing an INTJ getting stuck on the small details can be like watching a car revving in neutral. INTJ Romantic Problems. Don't get me wrong, being blunt and direct is a good thing in certain situations. Opening up is painful Se: Prone to addictions, weird demeanor . 1 A forty-year plan. Currently dating an ENFP girl but I get tired of the mixed signals (sometimes getting 100 messages a day, than suddenly 2 days of total radio silence). Yes, really. Just hard in different ways. You were born this way, so if you hate being you, it doesn't matter what your type is. Keep being INTJ, of course you have flows but that doesn’t change the fact your one the greatest personality type to interact with. . So we tend to try to think the same way about stuff. Its hard, draining, but necessary if you don't want to end up in bad situations or make mistakes that will hurtyour feelings. Most INTJ’s felt outcasted until stumbling upon this, So of course as you finally gather a sense of things and find a community, it’s quite hard to keep it to yourself. They natural want to keep them away from the sadness Also talking about emotions makes them relieve the past what’s happened and they may avoid doing that. It really isn’t fair that men are typically taken more seriously because apparently being logical is, like you said, a “masculine” trait. However I am cold, critical, secretly judgemental but also can't hide my emotions well so I doubt how secret it really is. Us INTJ’s do subtle things to let you know. but I also notice that it makes me have a hard time feeling loose and relaxed with other people. Afterwards though, I guess every INTJ realises that being an INTJ can be pretty exhausting. Being an INTJ is a good thing, not a bad thing. Navigating these challenges can improve your well-being, allowing you to thrive while embracing your introverted nature. And want to resolve my mind from being afraid of an INTJ person. F-everone. The default is heady or intellectual, and most people just aren't like that. I dont know your situation, just saying. What they don’t realise is that we have noticed their small manipulations and ego driven jabs and have let it go. At first I find INTJs are the ones that think they’re so superior to INFJ that we’ll take anything they dish out just to bask ion their presence, particularly their intellect. Instead of "try hard", now I did just enough to get my reputation out there as being knowledgeable and skilled at my job, but I made no effort to solidify myself as this all-star performer. Edit : We're hedgehogs basically :(I You can be great at what you do, but without great soft skills, it'll be very hard to get promoted past a certain point. Reply reply Being an INTJ, I wondered what is the most common problem INTJ's come to them for. I'm currently in high school and I'm just getting into learning about my personality type. I think at times it can be easier to find ways to adapt our thought process and reframe our approach instead of trying to go against our INTJs are sincerely devoted to their spouses and are prepared to put up the effort to make their relationships work, despite the fact that they can be reserved and challenging to read. In my first real job, I had to spend some time learning to tone myself down. Whether you’re an INTJ yourself or simply curious about this fascinating personality type, read on to Most of my family are xsfx and being a INTJ in a SF environment is very hard. They prefer straightforward communication, valuing honesty and respect in their interactions. INTJ or not, You're still you. ) It’s hard for me to stay in the present when my mind is I think a lot of INTJ-typed people tend to have low tolerance for passive aggressiveness. The sides of the brain are linked to different systems. The result is, people learned through results that I knew my shit, so now THEY come to ME, instead of me trying to run around proving myself. INTJs are very hard to read and understand, even for other INTJs. I stick around so I’m not being rude but I’m just waiting for the chance to leave. Final Thoughts. Your post is effectively a complaint that other people perceive you as smart, interesting and dangerous. Patterns and connections are their focus – they want to see how everything in life Can’t say this is “a type thing”. We can get use to being in one way of thought in our own heads. In order to coach people it requires validation and affirming them doing the right thing. Yes - some characteristics are typical for us, and we are prone to behaving in some specific ways. Also, it's difficult to share my feelings with others. My dear fellow INTJs, are you also bothered by this thing? Or am I the only one who worries over my relationship with people and how hard it is for me to connect with everyone? What are your struggles with being an INTJ? I am from the Philippines, and I am 22 years old. Look, I could be fixating too hard on classification, but for me (personally), existing as an INTJ person can be distressing at times. Check the r/INTJ rules and INTJ or (I)ntroversion, I(N)tuition, (T)hinking, (J)udgment, is known for being one of the rarest types according to Myers-Briggs 16 personalities. A few months ago, I realized that it really isn't a positive thing to completely let go of social gatherings and also because in the long term, I aimed to open a start-up so it is important to be networking around and become more socially dominant. Here is a look at 7 struggles associated with being an INTJ. Everyone is always saying that a lot of the things I do are so “hard,” but I honestly don’t ever see anything as hard. I certainly don't know what it's like to be a female in dating, but as an INTJ it's hard because we just think differently than others. But here are some tips from the founder of Le15 33 votes, 17 comments. So, on to the matter at hand. LinkedIn Facebook Email. For example my dad, being dominant Fi, takes offence when I don’t see him for a while, don’t tell him i love him when i leave or don’t put “x” on the end of a text. INTJs tend to seek out like-minded people which can be hard to come by. Take a moment to go through your butthurt over the girl, not too long, that get up off the floor, get back in there and win. It’s rough, but exciting relationships! Intj women tend to prefer partners with mbti profiles only differing by 1 letter. 8. For example my dad, being dominant Fi, takes offence when I don’t As an INTJ, you might often encounter specific struggles that stem from your unique personality traits. If you’re dating an INTJ, don’t take it personally if they Sometimes I think this INTJ pattern is externalizing this search for a soulmate when in fact that which you end up seeking is only found in yourself. Being wrong is the only place we get a confidence boost. However, INTJs are great strategic thinkers and while they might be quiet about their thought processes, they tend to be confident on where a situation is going, and they’re often correct. I've realized a lot of the barriers I've been running into socially, can be tied back to being an INTJ. Yes, INTJ's are almost pathologically self orientated. Getting into serious relationships can pose a challenge for INTJs and many may choose to forego intimate relationships to live a solitary and hermetic existence for much of their life. I feel like I don't relate to others at all, I think being an intj is what makes it hard for me to be the same way as the people I describe, but it find their efforts very admirable because I believe we need people like that. I do that all the time on me, not on the others and never will do, and that’s because I’m conscious that if I don’t “restrict” in a certain way myself I will be lazy and rely on the bare minimum, which I don’t want to. I don’t know why I feel so much pressure to do it all alone. Being Ni-dom aswell I know that it's a curse and a blessing being more perceptive than others. Personally what I hate the most about being an INTJ is how most stereotypes out there are nothing like what it is to be an actual INTJ. 151K subscribers in the intj community. But is it good to be an INTJ? In this article, we’ll explore the characteristics of this logic-driven personality type and examine the pros and cons of being an INTJ. Many INTJs consider this to be their primary love language. It's hard to not logic myself out of a relationship, and it's hard to just let things happen. I was in LTR with a couple of INTJs and I don't think they ever had an issue with expressing their feelings. INTJs are very attractive to many types of women. As women, we know the challenges of navigating the workplace. Could our personality get in the way? And also is there anything that can be done about it? What I love about being an INTJ is that we seem so rigid in our thinking but we are actually so flexible - if we find a reason that makes sense we can turn around 180° in an instant and change a believe we had all our life without any problems at all. As is said, ignorance is bliss, the more you understand the more you realize how f'd up everything is. So the whole spiel about INTjs being hard to like or difficult to be friends with is a case by case thing. Many introverts experience difficulties that can complicate interactions and connections with others. What It’s Like Being an INTJ Woman in the Workplace. But your comment about wanting to "feel less alone" does partially get at why I say that. To understand how we operate, why we operate, The INTJ woman is not seen as emotional often separating her from the “girly” or “flighty” image that some women can be prone to. Is this true? Also, do INTJs have any specific difficulties? As an INTJ going through countless interviews and getting nowhere I have to ask. Be Strategic. My INTJ best friend literally cautions her friends that I'm actually like them in spite of not looking like a nerd before they meet me. Hard realities about being INTJ . You work hard when you can realize what you are working for. Mentally abusing others isn't really an INTJ thingThank you for still confirm about what I think. Sometimes we INFJs feel like tortured souls—but our personality can also be a real gift. You'll never just fit in with most types of people, and as much as you try to adapt, they'll eventually see you as strange because you keep trying to be someone you are not in order to fit in. The INTJ personality type, often dubbed “The Architect” or “The Mastermind,” is one of the rarest and most intriguing profiles among the 16 Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) types. From the gender pay gap to the lack of representation in top leadership positions, women face many obstacles that can make it difficult to succeed. It means that critical thinking has won over ignorance. xglb nbnhs wzxicy nlhe fjce ktu wrlfqwv rxiztj chefzb qycsl